Hello beautiful souls,
Most of us are programmed, be it genetically, culturally or through social consciousness, to do things for others. Thinking of others and serving others is wonderful, I am all for it. However, some of us have almost ‘over-corrected’ this behaviour and find it very difficult to consider ourselves or to serve ourselves. I am thinking specifically of the little things, such as cooking a meal. How many of you would consider preparing yourself a curry, a roast dinner or a lasagne from scratch just for yourself?
Some of us just don’t feel that our own needs or happiness, are worth the effort. The idea came to me this week when I, (probably later than most of you), discovered the delights of the Elf on the Shelf! My children are all teenagers and I would have loved to have taken part in this festive fun with them when they were little; not to moderate their behaviour, but because hiding or displaying the Elf in amusing situations each day, really appeals to my sense of creativity and fun. I would have had a ball! My youngest daughter on hearing this bought me my own Elf so I could enjoy the tradition. Each morning, she gamely acts surprised and delighted when she finds my Elf around the house, but we both know that I am really playing for my own amusement, and why not?
I would never have thought of buying one for myself but am so grateful she did it for me. I learnt a valuable lesson; that doing something for fun just for me is satisfying, okay and … fun! Just like baking a cake just for me would be satisfying, okay and delicious! So, today I encourage you to determine where in your life you are not considering yourself worth the effort and to act with the knowledge that you are!
I’m off to give my Elf an ice axe fashioned from a cocktail stick, create a mountain from ice cubes in the freezer and to put him in a heroic position hanging off a precipice!
I love you, humanity,