Hello beautiful souls,
How often to you struggle to accomplish something alone, unwilling or feeling unable to ask for help? Both in our business and in our personal lives, many of us can only see a value in the way forward if we, ‘do it by our self.’ I work with many clients who have belief programs around having to do things by themselves, in order to feel they have really made the achievement.
I get it, I really do. Having a sense of pride in yourself and reflecting on how you have achieved, is a great morale boost and raises your self-esteem & self-confidence. But the truth is, you can have these amazing positive feelings and allow yourself to be supported.
The first step to permitting yourself to be supported is to capture yourself some collaboration. Working with someone to achieve your goals and having them working towards theirs at the same time, usually feels a much more comfortable way of accepting support for those of us who have the, ‘I must do it all by myself’ belief programs.
Collaboration is a magical way to be supported and support others. It allows for double energy to be aimed at your goals as well as your collaborators. You are adding your area of expertise and receiving the benefit of theirs. All these benefits without the fear that you are not ‘doing it all by yourself;’ what could be better?
You can happily receive the support knowing you are also giving some, so the balance is redressed. Collaboration is magical, the whole result is certainly bigger than the sum of the two parts.
Of course, if you are struggling alone because you are holding onto belief programs which mean you think in order to feel you have achieved something properly, you have to do it alone, then it would helpful, and make your life easier if you change them! I’m always happy to help you with that and you can contact me via my website www.nicolavandyke.com or DM me on Instagram, Nicola van Dyke to book a One-2-One session. But collaborating would be a great way to start moving forward positively; there are people all around you just waiting for you to reach out!
Go on – take the plunge!
I love you, humanity